In this exercise you will sit facing each other. One straddling the others legs so you are face to face and heart to heart. Yabyum is good here, too. Create a quiet space, perhaps your sacred safe space if you have time. Sit face to face. In this space, put your right hands on each other’s heart. Look deep into each other’s eyes. Spend a few minutes just being together. Coordinating your breathing will increase the intimacy of this exercise.

Now spend about five minutes each saying the following;

-What I love about you ___________

-What I appreciate about you  ___________

-What I admire about you  _____________

-or any other comment you would like to add.

The partner doing the listening-just listens. The listening partner checks in with themselves-notice what you are feeling? Are you able to let these messages into your heart? 

When partner one is finished, partner two responds with “thank you” or something else appropriate. Again, no fixing, no response to statements-only acknowledgement you  “heard” your partner.

Partner two now has a turn.

-What I love about you ___________

-What I appreciate about you  ___________

-What I admire about you  _____________

-or any other comment you would like to add.

Partner One responds with “I hear you” statement.

Take your time. Add whatever you would like. This is your appreciation admiration time. End with a hug…..and take your time. 
This exercise should be done each day. Maybe before bedtime or to get you started in the morning. What a wonderful way to start the day by being appreciated and admired.